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mum2be · Joined: 25 Jun 2010 Posts: 2 Location: UK

I lost my dad 2 months ago, I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby, this would have also been my dad's first grandchild.

I found out today that I'm having a little boy! Smile

I've been so down since my dad went, but today was lovely. It does however feel strange as I would have been telling my dad today he's going to have a grandson but haven't been able to.

I've now started to think how I will bring up my own little boy. I was thinking today that although my dad had his problems, there were bad times, however he was a good dad.

I will always remember the good times, when we were younger he did try his best to take me and my little brother as many places as he could. He didn't have much money but he really believed we would be better people for knowing more about places/facts/different people etc. Which is very true.

Sometimes we wouldn't appreciate it at all, we'd love going to theme parks but get bored being told facts about the city we lived in! But now I realise he was just trying to provide us with knowledge and take us to as many places as he could in the UK. Which was great, now I do appreciate it as lots of kids never got to do that or they were never taken out of the city they lived in.

I want to be the same with my little boy. I want to take him to as many places as I can so he can see as much of the UK (and beyond!) as he can.

I know my dad would have been so happy he was going to have a little grandson - I will take him to all the places my dad took me when I was little.

Ronnie Walker · Posted: Tue Jun 29, 2010 8:04 pm Post subject:

mum2be

Congratulations on this new little boy.

Your post reminds me of how much of a difference we can make in our children't lives, just by exposing them to things. I guess we often get so busy that it is easy not to plan those special occasions.

Thanks for the reminder of how important this sort of thing is.

Ronnie
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Joanne · Joined: 02 Mar 2008 Posts: 1294 Location: WESTERN AUSTRALIA

Hello Mum2be,

Thanks for sharing memories of your Dad with us all. He sounds like he was a very loving caring Dad. He has left lasting memories for you to share with your little boy one day.

I am certain that your Dad will be proud of you and of your little boy when he is born. He will know even now, for I believe they are with us always ... watching over us.

You take care of you and your baby boy to be.
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Joyce Newman · Posted: Fri Jul 02, 2010 11:14 am Post subject:

Dear Momtobe - Thank you for sharing your memories of your Dad with us. Your soon to be son will be blessed to have you for him Mommy. You sound like a strong loving woman who will share her cherished memories of her Dad with her child. It is surprising on what traits carry forward from generation to generation. For example in my family, my oldest granddaughter has red hair like my father, her great grandfather ( her parents did not). She has a love of music like her grandfather. She walks just like her father. So who knows what part of Grandpa will carry on in your son. Please be gentle with yourself and take care of yourself and your unborn child.
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